Flavia Tumusiime On How To Deal With Sexual Advances From Bosses And More Challenges

Gorgeous Capital FM presenter and NTV news anchor Flavia Tumusiime continues to tell random stories from her career journey, each with a different lesson. We bring you Days 4, 5 and 6 of #30DaysOfFlavia. 

When i was fresh off teens club, i had the first rough year with the tabloids. They were constantly paintingme as the former teens club presenter who was always out smoking and drinking, falling and embarassing herself and dating my former co-presenter. Then in my first year at capital, they ran a story that i was dating my boss and thats how igot the job. One day Capital had organised aparty and called media personalities and journalists, i asked one of the tabloid writers, why he chose to write false stories about me. His response..”i write what am given, your own friends and colleagues sentin those stories” he even proceeded to show me messages as proof. Wow,bless him for having been so honest but i told him that wouldnt help clear my name and he gave me advise that i use till today.”Flavia, you cant change what is said or written aboutyou by talking…noonebelieves that, people believe actions. So if you ever want people to see you for who you are and not the lies, live a true life and eventually people will believe actions not words.” It took me so many years to be true to myself and trust me i have made many mistakes but i choose not to broadcast them. Here is my word to you, people talk, and talk and talk some more, good or bad. Never build your success on peoples’ words or even break it because of their words.‪ #‎30daysofflavia‬

Today i will share a harsh truth. As girls and women, we are faced with more difficulty in the path to success, some our faults, others just the claws of temptation. A few years ago, i was starting to grow inmy role as event emcee, i was being offered gigs andeven though i wasn’t getting paid much, i was happy to be working. Then one day a job got recommended and i took it. But the person who gave me the job wasnt too familiar with my work and didn’t actually know much about Flavia Tumusiime. He asked if i could send him a picture of me and at that moment i got suspicious but he brushed it off as a joke. Anyway i went for the gig and before i got on stage, the guy asked if we would be going somewhere after…i cringed and told him he was making me uncomfortable and i would leave if he continued his advances. His response: ” you think you are special? So many gals can do this job its just talking on stageand if you want to act like a kid, i wont give you any more work.”. Well after that gig true to it he never hired me again. Well its okay i walked away with my dignity. But you see, us gals or women face so many hurdles because before you talk, some people rate your value on your looks and body. Its okay to be beautiful and proud of it. Its also possible that many opportunities will come thanks to what you look like or dress like…BUT my word of advise is…prove to them you are more than the looks…improveyourself, work hard and never let your beauty be all you have.‪ #‎30daysofflavia‬

When i left teens club, i was exposed to a growing celebrity culture. There were cliques and all and who was hanging with who. I was excited i wont lie, i enjoyed hanging with all the famous musicians that people saw as untouchable and it got to my head. I started to want to be like them…well not the singing part lol. I wanted to dress like them, live lavish and just fit in. A friend of mine, a local female artist had a very trendy hairstyle and i told her to recommend thesalon, i got there and was treated like a star. After myhair was done, they gave me a bill fitting of a star…loli took a double look but i paid and it took most of my cash in my bag to sort that bill…all for hair that i couldn’t keep after a week because celebs don’t do that. Anyway after that, the pressure was on, i would spend every coin i made just to look like or copy a certain friend and what i thought was cool. Then i woke up and realised i had nothing to my name except the cool shoes and bags. So i started to save…my first meaningful salary was 450,000. I started to knock on doors to give me any gigs or work to supplement my income since i was paying my own tuition at university. I made it work, with my salary and side work. Obviously things have changed today and i can afford a certain life but eventhen…more money more problems. Here is my word to you, its not and will not get easy in the battle to keep up appearances, but at what cost? I hope the next time you make a decision, you start with what YOU think before you bother with what anyone else thinks.‪ #‎30daysofflavia